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Tolson 4 TEARS Research Sexual Abuse + Suicide Attempts

August 21st, 2010 No comments

I went back to school in my forties to use the college resources to research the correlation between sexual assault and suicide attempts. Missouri Western State University, Department of Social Work and Sociology.  Suicide is not (in and of itself) a psychiatric condition: it is an extreme reaction to extreme human conditions. Basically, those who have been sexually abused are 14 times more likely to attempt suicide. Here is a synopsis of the research, which appeared as an article in the National Association of Social Workers, Missouri Chapter Newsletter.

Sexual Assault as an Antecedent to Suicide Attempts:

A Synopsis From Academic Research

by Lynn C. Tolson, BSW

This article is adapted from research and a presentation conducted by the author at the annual Social Work Institute at Missouri Western State University, Saint Joseph, MO. The purpose of this article is to discuss the relationship between sexual assault and suicide attempts. Research has focused on sexual assault or suicide attempts but few study sexual assault as a precursor to suicide attempts. Although sexual assault occurs across all classes, races, and ethnic groups, rape is the only crime where women are the majority victims. Furthermore, statistics show that females attempt suicide more often than males. Thus, the trauma of a sexual assault may be a precursor to a suicide attempt.

The confluence of factors leading to suicide obscures a path that may possibly point to an attempter’s history as a victim of sexual assault. Since suicide attempts are not crimes and drug overdoses may or may not be intentional, it makes it even more difficult to determine which, if any, suicide attempts are related to sexual assault.

Counselors screen for suicide risk by determining previous attempts, which is a primary indicator of future attempts. In suicide, the closest diagnosis is depression. Clinicians recognize that a suicidal client may present with symptoms of depression, such as fatigue, over-or under-eating, inability to focus, and/or sleeping too little or too much. However, the underlying cause of a victim’s distress must be considered, instead of merely treating a symptom, such as depression. Counselors may consider that a sexual assault history be included when screening for suicide by asking, “Has anyone touched you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable?” This questioning occurs only after the counselors have determined that the client has adequate coping skills and support systems. Follow-up services on the sexually assaulted and/or the suicidal are necessary to prevent an ultimate suicide.

Difficulties arise when victims do not report rapes even in the privacy of a counseling session. In some cases, the victim may not remember the assault, if, perhaps, she had been drugged and passed out. The victim may not reveal for other reasons, such as being blamed for the assault, fearing retaliation from the attacker, or public humiliation. Many survivors of sexual assault may believe rape myths. One such myth is that the typical rapist is a stranger to the victim. In fact, studies revealed the prevalence of date rape and/or acquaintance rape.

Counselors in the community (Saint Joseph, MO) appear to be doing all that they can given the lack of resources to meet the needs. Yet an inadequacy of services may cause individual victims of sexual assault to suffer in isolation and/or to cry out for help in the context of suicide attempts. Services intended to prevent, intervene, and treat sexual assault and/or suicide are inadequate due to lack of funding and staffing. This is unfortunate, given that the need for early rape and suicide prevention programs are necessary prior to adolescence. Agencies should start early in prevention via awareness in the community, and stay long in treating the survivor via support groups.

Churches, schools, and family/community centers may be appropriate avenues for increasing awareness. These institutions must be aware of the rape myths and facts in order to serve victims with knowledge and care. In addition, community members must be mindful of the risk factors associated with suicide to prevent completed suicides.

Society perpetuates stigmas pertaining to suicide and rape; these stigmas cast a code of silence that solves neither problem. The silence limits the study of correlations between sexual assault and suicide attempts. The limits of research diminish public awareness of social issues. However, sexual assault and/or suicide attempts are not merely private matters, but are indeed public issues. I suggest that it is necessary to increase knowledge about these issues, decrease the cost to society in human potential, and take long-term action to treat the sexually assaulted and/or suicide attempters. Adequate services and awareness opportunities for both men and women must be available to intervene, treat, and support victims.

Ample resource material is available by and for professionals (and survivors) seeking information on sexual assault. However, no matter how much literature is available on the social problems of suicide attempts and sexual assault, few true-life stories of recovery are available. Therefore, as the author of Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story, I made public my private journey of recovery. I reveal my struggle as a survivor of sexual assault, including incest (indeed, family members are not strangers.) The reader of Beyond the Tears is privy to the counseling sessions I engaged in after a suicide attempt. By bringing my dark secrets to light, it is my hope that others who have had similar events will know that they are not alone. Readers may also explore their own emotions to open lines of communication, eliminate shame, and experience healing. I also hope that my book promotes understanding of the issues that cause individual suffering and plaque our society. An additional benefit of this book is that any clinician will see how another counselor made a difference in the author’s life.

For information and resources visit RAINN: Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network


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Tolson/Beyond the Tears gets 5 Star Review

June 17th, 2010 No comments

Extremely Real and Vulnerably Raw

I just finished Lynn’s [Tolson] book this past weekend. I found it extremely real, honest and vulnerable. I am a Childhood Sexual Trauma survivor and I now lead support groups for women who have been sexually abused. I plan to recommend Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story as a “must read” because she [Tolson] does not hold back from allowing the reader to see the depths of her struggles as well as the immense shame and guilt that all survivors wind up carrying with them into their relationships, and careers, which ultimately becomes the victim’s identity.

This book gives a voice to those who feel hopeless due to their abuse and it validates those living with fear which winds up becoming a type of invisible prison. Through it all she goes from victim to survivor and eventually to thriver. Lynn’s journey helps make one realize it is possible to find freedom and more than a will to live, but to discover one’s passion and begin a new road that goes beyond recovery and healing to accomplishment. (Marijo, Cincinnati, OH)

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Tolson 4 TEARS: April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

March 10th, 2010 No comments

April is National Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM). What is sexual assault? State laws vary, but here is a general and brief explanation.

WHAT IS SEXUAL ASSAULT? Sexual assault is a legal term as well as a phrase that pertains to unwanted sexual contact. State laws vary* but the most common phrase used to define sexual assault is “an act of sexual penetration or intrusion without a person’s consent.” Sexual assault occurs when sexual contact is not consensual.

WHAT IS PENETRATION? Sexual penetration or intrusion can be vaginal, oral, or anal by any body part or object.

WHO IS A PERPETRATOR? Sexual assault, including rape and attempted rape, can be completed by anyone, including an acquaintance, boyfriend or girlfriend, spouse, sibling, stranger, or gang.

WHAT IS RAPE? Rape is not a legal term in some states. Rape is a term commonly used to describe acts of unwanted penetration. An attempted rape may be considered a sexual assault.

WHAT IS CHILD SEXUAL ASSAULT? Sexual assault of a child involves subjecting a person under 15 years old to any sexual contact if the perpetrator is 4 or more years older than the victim; or having sexual contact with someone under 17 if the perpetrator is at least 10 years older.*

WHO IS A MINOR? Sexual contact with anyone under the age of 18 by a person in a position of power or trust is considered sexual assault on a child. These laws apply to minors even if they think they consented to the sexual contact. Fondling or touching without consent are unlawful sexual contacts. This is a crime whether or not the victim is clothed.

WHAT IS CONSENT? Consent means that there is cooperation in act and/or attitude and there is an exercise of free will, with knowledge of the nature of the act. A child cannot consent, nor can an impaired person. Having a current or previous relationship with the perpetrator does not automatically constitute consent. Giving in to an act out of fear is submission, not consent.

Prepared by Lynn C. Tolson, author of Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story and founder of the Project for TEARS: Telling Everyone About Rape & Suicide

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Tolson/Beyond the TEARS at Sexual Violence Library

November 3rd, 2009 No comments

Author Lynn C. Tolson is proud to announce that her memoir

Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story

is listed at the

NATIONAL SEXUAL VIOLENCE RESOURCE CENTER LIBRARY

The National Sexual Violence Resource Center serves as the nation’s principle information and resource center regarding all aspects of sexual violence. It provides national leadership, consultation and technical assistance by generating and facilitating the development and flow of information on sexual violence intervention and prevention strategies. The NSVRC works to address the causes and impact of sexual violence through collaboration, prevention efforts and the distribution of resources.

This library database contains the library collections of both the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) and the Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape (PCAR). A default search allows you to search both collections at once. You may also search just one of the collections at a time, through the search options location field.

Although the NSVRC library is a non-lending collection, we can provide you with selected resources from our library. Please contact us for more information.

Please contact the NSVRC with any questions about searching the database, or locating helpful resources or referrals.

Phone: 877-739-3895, 717-909-0710

Email: resources@nsvrc.org

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Tolson/Beyond the TEARS: RAINN

September 28th, 2009 No comments

Tolson/Beyond the Tears recommends RAINN ing TEARS

RAINN Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network

What is RAINN? See videos at the site

The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network is the nation’s largest anti-sexual assault organization. RAINN operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline and carries out programs to prevent sexual assault, help victims and ensure that rapists are brought to justice.

RAINN offers online hotline 1.800.656.HOPE

safe, secure, free, rainnlogoconfidential 24/7

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Tolson/Beyond the TEARS reviews “Whose Face is in the Mirror?”

September 28th, 2009 1 comment

Review of Whose Face is in the Mirror: The Story of One Woman’s Journey from the Nightmare of Domestic Abuse to True Healing by Dianne Schwartz

Whose Face is in the Mirror was one of the first books I read on the topic of domestic violence. Since I am an author of a similar memoir, Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s StoryWhose Face is in the Mirror was recommended to me by a professor of social work who had heard Dianne Schwartz speak. At the time of my initial reading, in 2001, the book seemed to be one of a small number of real-life stories of recovery from abuse. It is a heart-wrenching story about domestic violence, and equally important is its heart-warming message of hope.

The book is divided into three parts. In Part I, Dianne shares the abuse she endured from her husband (at the time). She tells the story so that other victims realize they are not alone. Part II covers Dianne’s journey to healing through therapy. She reveals the lessons she learned from her therapist. Her insights help others understand the causes and effects of domestic abuse. Schwartz also admits mistakes she made as a mother, as she reflects on how domestic abuse affects children. In Part III, Dianne explains the ongoing process of a healing journey. She encourages readers to find a mission based not on ego and pride, but on love and compassion.

While reading this book, you will see how domestic abuse emerges and escalates. You may also realize that the reasons for staying in an abusive relationship are perhaps excuses that prevent change. Dianne reveals the advice that did not work (such as pray, fast, and submit). Then, she tells how she left her abusive husband, and what she did to reclaim her identity. She explains how the use of bright, feminine colors helped her to define herself authentically, and not as an appendage of an abusive man. In chapter 18, “Lies and Truths”, Ms. Schwartz explains the stereo-types and myths that keeps us trapped in toxic relationships, and how to improve our perspective.

Whose Face is in the Mirror is a memoir about domestic violence that is not graphic, dramatic, or sensationalized. We might expect a former Mrs. Arizona, Dianne Schwartz, to write about her glamorous life of a celebrity. Instead, we learn of a generous survivor of domestic violence who founded an organization to educate on the topic: Educating Against Domestic Violence

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Tolson/Beyond the TEARS at Lavender Power

September 22nd, 2009 No comments

Lavender Patch

Lavender Power Survivors Hall of Success-ors

Inspiring Role Models to Watch

If you are a survivor of domestic abuse and/or sexual assault, recovery can seem impossible and beyond your grasp. Although the challenges you are experiencing are difficult, MILLIONS OF WOMEN are achieving a healthy rewarding life. Your recovery path doesn’t have to be perfect, only that your challenges do not derail you off your purpose to redefine your life on your own terms.

Telling your story through your arts and talents is not only an excellent healing tool but also survivors have propelled their careers into huge success bringing our rich history of thriving to music, television, theater, books, and movies.

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Tolson/Beyond the TEARS & Self-Injury

September 19th, 2009 1 comment
YDNW

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“The drops of blood are just like the tears I should cry, but what I can’t cry.”

This statement is from a victim/survivor of abuse who harms herself. If you want to know more about the correlation between abuse and self-injury, check out

You’ve Done Nothing Wrong

The site is created by a young woman who used self-injury as a means to cope with sexual abuse. She dedicates her time and energy to educating about abuse and self-harm. You can read others’ stories, learn alternate ways to cope, find support and awareness. I’ve never met this woman, but I know her pain. I am proud of her for sharing her story so that others know they are not alone. She shares my mission for the Project for TEARS: Telling Everyone About Rape & Suicide, so that no shed tear is wasted.


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