Tolson/Beyond the TEARS reviews “No Secrets, No Lies”
No Secrets, No Lies: How Black Families Can Heal From Sexual Abuse by Robin D. Stone
The author of is a survivor of sexual assault. She has been an editor for Essence magazine, The New York Times, the Boston Globe, the Detroit Free Press, and Family Circle. She also teaches journalism at New York University. This impressive writing experience is evident in her clear, concise, compassionate, and culturally enlightening work: No Secrets, No Lies. Throughout the book, Stone offers “Fast Facts” in the margin, adding relevant material to the readers’ knowledge. Stone cites her sources in an extensive “notes” section. She also offers a valuable resource list and index.
Stone offers case examples in each chapter. We read about Kim, who was molested by her stepfather until she was nineteen. Kim learns that a relative had sexually abused her mother. This addresses the frightening fact that perpetration is all too often generational.
The author incorporates the limitations placed upon Black survivors. However, Stone encourages counseling: In chapter four, Stone suggests methods to finding “African-Centered Healing.” cultural starting point for the study of African people.” Stone then shares Rhonda Wells-Wilbon’s Aya Model: Ten Steps Toward Healing” for a culturally sensitive method.
I read this book about the same time I read Marilyn VanDerbur’s. My
reaction was that the book was well written and applied to any and all
of us who are survivors. I really liked her fast facts also. J